Women

I have quite a different standpoint on women from most. I don’t believe that seducing or marrying women is an incredible accomplishment. I can see your face, already you’re surprised. Why would any rational male not see women as an accomplishment in his life? Let me answer: I am more motivated to carve a place for myself in the history books as somebody immensely powerful and influential. On my journey I have realized being romantic with women doesn’t help me. In the past women aligned themselves with their man’s goals and supported him until completion. Many men throughout history have talked about how their wives were the reasons they were able to reach their lofty goals goals. However, feminism has ensured that those days are past. Women are now raised to have their own goals that are more important than the goals of their man. This, neither good or bad, recent development has forced men like me to re-prioritize. Unlike my ancestors I can not expect to find a woman who will want to be on my “team” like the men of the past were had. My life is a ship headed one direction and one direction only. I am the captain. Anybody who enters my life may be part of my crew if they desire. Either the woman will help my ship run smoothly or she can get off at the next stop.

Another point that draws me away from women is the fact that everybody does the same exact things. My most recent date was to the aquarium. While there I observed the other couples as if they were the exhibits. They acted so cute, holding one another’s hands, wrapping their arms around their women at certain exhibits. We’re all doing the same exact thing just as men and women have been for thousands of years. My father did with my mother what I’m doing with my date now. Just as his father before him and my grandfather’s father before him. This process shows why a man is remembered for his actions and never for the woman he “achieved.” Look at the men who achieved great things, nobody remembers their significant other/s. Alexander the Great, John D. Rockefeller, and Henry Ford are all remembered for their actions and not their wives. Even Casanova was remembered for his writings on seduction and not an individual woman. To be more recent, can anybody tell me what Mark Cuban’s wife’s first name is? Carlos Slim Helu’s? Even Melinda Gates will not go down in history while Bill Gates will. The greats won’t be remembered for seducing and marrying a woman because non-great men can do that. For you to be alive every one of your male ancestors had to seduce a woman. That is hundreds of men! Men are always, and always will be, remembered for what they have done. If any man wants to be remembered in history he has to realize that. So masterminds, keep your priorities straight: dominating your world comes first, and women come second.

Solitude vs. Loneliness

In today’s age we often hear about how technology has fragmented human relations and people feel more “alone” and “lonely” than ever before. I don’t I accept this paradigm. If anything the human race is more connected than it has ever been in history. I can talk to my cousin in Iowa from Dallas, Texas in five seconds. Also, technology only has as much utility as a person gives it. Facebook, Instagram and Twitter can only replace a social life if a person allows it to. Instead, I assert that people today are more alone then ever for a two reasons.

One, the reputation of being alone is increasingly negative and increasingly saturated into our culture, therefore on our minds more than ever. Those who are alone are painted as lame, ostracized, ridiculous. Of course underlying this argument is the idea that all people are more entertaining than you are yourself so you must depend on them for “lifeblood,” but we’ll deal with that later. Pop culture ridicules those who are alone on a consistent basis. In today’s day in age, when people are alone for any amount of time they panic and “must find somebody to converse with.” Watch people, it is interesting to observe those who are suddenly abandoned by a social acquaintance to fend for themselves in the social world. God forbid they are spotted alone, then they’ll be perceived as a low value human being, just like in popular literature. Upon realizing their “loneliness” they panic and approach the nearest person so they no longer have to be alone. People need to realize that being alone for a day is not a bad thing. Being alone for days at a time is a bad thing, but in today’s kindergarten world people are scared to be alone for any more than 5 seconds. With the increased amount of “loneliness awareness” in our society it is no wonder people are always alone. Maybe there is some self-fulfilling prophecy involved.

The second reason people are more lonely than ever before is because society no longer values solitude. To seek solitude means to be alone which, according to society, “logically” means solitude is terrible. Solitude is perceived as a terrible nightmare because it requires one to be alone. However, solitude is really being with oneself. By observing ourselves and our actions solitude is employed as a powerful tool. Taking time in solitude to meditate, think, pray, mentally prepare ones self, read and write is good. The constant pressure to “be with people” is suffocating the self-actualization that comes from solitude. There are many good things that come with being alone. To be alone without being lonely a person should approach being alone with a goal of solitude. I am hardly ever alone; I just seek solitude. If I approached being alone as society does I would be very lonely all the time, but because I search for solitude I am never lonely. I believe that as long as our society does not value solitude people will struggle being alone.

Creating Options

“A man without options becomes necessitous and this leads to a lack of confidence and a scarcity mentality. Necessitous men are never free.” – Rollo Tomassi

As I continue to read, study and live I continuously re-learn the immense power that comes from the creation of options. The greater amount of viable, exercisable options a person is able to create the more power they have. Lets go through some examples:

1. A girl I know got accepted at two colleges and both colleges offer her scholarship money. She realized she now had two viable options for her future. Instead of merely choosing one or the other she decided to play them against one another. She incited a bidding war between the two schools for her. Even if she knew which school she intended to go to from the very beginning she has nothing to lose from putting the schools in a bidding war. By creating viable options she created real power. She ended up accepting 3 times the amount she was originally offered.

2. A man worked at a normal desk job. Instead of allowing that job to be his sole source of income he created 2 side jobs that provided him with $10,000 a year respectively. Now that he had created an extra $20,000 per year he became less dependent on his original job. That independence is power. The company now had less control over him because he no longer depended on that company for his income, his survival. This is why companies hate it when their employees go moonlighting. The employee’s creation of options takes away the power the company has over him. The man has taken power for himself by the creation of options.

3. A male arrives on campus with the goal of getting many women. Instead of choosing to just go for one at a time he goes for many at once. Many say no to his advances but many also accept his advances. Now he is no longer dependent on one single woman to fulfill his needs. With many women caring for him at once no one woman has much power over him. At a certain point our young male decides to get a girl friend. Even when he does he maintains his relationships with other women so even his girlfriend doesn’t have power over his actions.

4. Don’t forget about the most important place to have options: financially. By paying off your debt you give yourself the power to live lives you never could while indebted. You can’t pick up and go around the world when you’re in debt. Debt ties you down and restricts your options. Savings does the opposite. The more capital you have the more options you have. Mark Cuban has much more capital than I do so he can afford to take on a wider range of investments (options) that I cannot. The options that he derives from his savings of capital give him power.

The creation of options puts you in the drivers seat in every facet of life. The sooner we learn to be creating options in every part, and at every time, of our lives the better off we will be. By creating options in our life we stop one individual thing from having too much power over us. It takes power away from the ‘fate’s that be’ and puts it in your own hands. When you have multiple options one event can not ruin what you have created. Say the working man above lost his job. He’s ends up alright because he still has 2 other jobs where he is making $10,000 a year with opportunity to grow. He can at the very least support himself. The college male looses one woman; he’s ok, he has many more. Don’t let yourself start to run low in options. If you only have one source of income at the very least begin investing in dividend stocks. By creating options in every facet of our life we take the power we need to live the life we want.

Confidence, freedom and power are derived from viable options and the ability to exercise them. – Rollo Tomassi

Dousing Yourself in Reality

Constantly, we as human beings are “medicating” our existence with various substances that change our state of mind. Escapism has become the norm in today’s society. At work people escape to fantasy football and online shopping. When they arrive home they escape into the world of Scandal or The Walking Dead. Then they go to sleep, wake up and drink coffee so they can operate like their mentally alive in a setting where they really are not. Then, if they are lucky enough to go home on a weekend night, they consume alcohol which has the potential to alter their state of mind so completely they don’t even have to exist in their current state anymore. All this escapism implies that people think something is wrong with reality. Well… what could possibly be wrong with reality? Maybe the fact that reality is hard, but, maybe more accurately, it is that reality does not have immediate reward in the now.

The common issue listed with all the items listed above is instant gratification. Let’s look at the definition of the Instant Gratification: The term “Instant Gratification” is often used to label the satisfactions gained by more impulsive behaviors: choosing now over tomorrow. What is bold is the most important part of this definition. By choosing to instant gratification we choose the now over tomorrow. By choosing now over tomorrow we take our potential future and we subjugate it to our childish whims in the now. Let’s take finances for example. Compound interest is magical and the sooner, and more, you start saving the more you will have in the future. By delaying gratification, and spending in the now, you give yourself greater spending power in the future. If you just can’t stay away from that new car you can barely afford you have subjugated your future to a childish whim. Another example would be almost anything in front of a television. Video games provide that feeling of accomplishment. However, when you stand up, you have accomplished nothing real. You have chosen to spend your precious time playing video games in an imaginary world instead of achieving something in reality. Like the finance your time matures on a compound basis. If you invest in yourself by putting in hard time when you are young you will reap the rewards when you are old. Success breeds success. It takes a lot of discipline to subjugate yourself to a study or career that will gratify you in 10 years when a video game can gratify you within the 30 seconds of turning on the system. So I encourage my readers to douse themselves in reality.

Don’t let yourself be sucked into the drugs, entertainment, internet surfing, excessive spending lifestyles. Ensure you have a lifestyle that keeps these distractions on the side. Every time you feel the urge to binge watch a season of How I Met Your Mother instead choose to do something in reality. Yes, it is incredibly difficult, to force yourself to be disciplined even when you don’t want to. However, the choice is a simple one, whenever you want to escape reality push yourself deeper into it. Instead of playing another hour of video games or watching a t.v. show choose to go out and try a new restaurant, get a job, get a car. Every step into reality, even the tiniest one like taking a walk, is better than a medicating away from reality. After a while you will get used to pushing yourself out your door to achieve something real. At first it is hard but it will get easier and have faith that the returns will come. So, readers, jump deep into reality with me and learn to swim in the deep end. Together we will reap the rewards years from now while our peers still languish in the world of gratification their weakness has created for them.