A Potential Reason Divorce is So High 2 (Continued)

The last article ran long please read A Potential Reason Divorce is so High 2 before reading the continuation.

Having established what the attractive traits of men and women are it is now possible to accurately asses whether the free market has been able to adequately form a replacement for the traits of men and women.

Like the defining traits section women will be addressed first. As mentioned earlier, porn acts a substitute for sex from women. Men all over the world now have access to a bank of young, fertile women with which to have proto-sex. This provides men with a very cheap product that can replace women. Many men even think that porn is a better experience than real rex. So, the most valuable trait women have is being replaced. With the advent of sex toys and the oncoming “sex-bots” the monopoly women have had on sex for all of history is about to end. However, they will still have a monopoly on real sex and always will. Next, let’s look at women’s ability to make a home. This service has been exported to a variety of cheap laborers. From nannies, to interior designers, to housemaids and to the incredible variety of machines man has made, like ovens and clothes washers, have almost completely eliminated any work women have to do in the creation of a home. Once again, the free market has provided men with an alternative to women. Lastly, there is the pleasant feminine demeanor. While the pleasant feminine demeanor is not being replicated it is definitely being destroyed by the free market. By encouraging women to work they operate in the workplace where they are subject to the competition that men are meant to face and win. While women may be able to win this competition it also leaves them relatively unfeminine, and undoubtably without that alluring feminine attitude we all love.

Men are also getting replaced by the free market. Unlike women the nebulous quality of the traits that make us attractive make it tougher for the free market to replace. Remember, what makes a man attractive is his ability to support a woman during pregnancy and child rearing. So, instead of the free market undermining the traits we can see many things that undermine this directly. The ability of women to work hurts men on two fronts. One, it allows women to support them and their child by themselves. Two, it decreases wages for all men because women double the size of the labor market. So, the result of these two is a double sided pressure on mens ability to support. They can no longer collect the wages they used too and they can not outstrip a woman’s wages by a significant amount that will offer her value. Women’s ability to work is, single-handedly, the biggest detractor from the attractiveness of men. Another thing we see taking attractiveness away from men is the willingness of the government to support women in times of trouble. This support structure hurts man’s ability to support a woman because she has an adequate substitution to put in his place.

Both men and women have had much of their attractiveness substituted for by the function of the free market. What was attractive in a masculine man, the ability to support a woman, has been solved by a labor opportunities and a support structure for women. What was attractive to a male, a body and feminine demeanor, has been eroded by the cheap substitutes of housemaids and porn. As a result each individual in either gender is much less attractive because our attractive traits is replaced by the free market. This causes a detrimental effect on marriage. As much as we hate to admit it part of the reason people stay together is because they need one another. Females should need and want their man. Only if it is really bad should she want to leave him. It’s the same for males. A man should want and need the femininity his girlfriend provides. Only if her traits become atrociously bad do should he end it. As shown in the prior paragraphs that problem has been solved by the free market. If a man breaks up with his girlfriend he can resort to porn for sex and she can turn to work for support. Men and women truly do not need one another anymore. This lack of need allows people to move freely in and out of relationships. No longer do men have to worry about a lack of sex in a divorce and no longer does a woman have to worry if she can support herself.

Ultimately what lies at the core of this argument is that we have become lazy in our relationships. Just because a woman can be replaced by a nanny to raise the children does not mean that she should. It is feminine to raise the child and that femininity will allow the man who should be supporting you to step up his masculinity. It is the same for men. Just because women can support themselves does not mean that a male should check out and not work on creating a world in which he can support. This show of masculinity will inspire the woman to be feminine. In this world where the very core of gender is being replaced I encourage all my readers to maintain their own sexuality, women maintain your femininity to the best of your ability, and men, maintain your masculinity.

A Potential Reason Divorce is so High 2

In the first two installations of this series I explicated a possible reason for a high divorce rate and paired it with a possible consequence. In this article I will explicate a second possible reason for a high divorce rate. This one has to do with the, supposedly, great things that the world of extreme capitalism has brought to our society.

In today’s society the free market encourages people to create products that fill another person’s need. Every man needs what women offer and ever woman needs what men offer. Therefor, we can suppose that half the world wants masculine traits that can be consumed cheaper and separate from an actual man and the other half the world wants feminine traits that can be consumed cheaper and separate from an actual woman. With a market of half the world, producers are heavily incentivezed to create a product that can replace what the sexes offer one another at a cheaper price than the person, of either gender, currently can. So, for example, porn offers men a cheap and easy alternative to sex with a woman. This replaces what is attractive about a women’s sex. To accurately tell whether this holds true or not the attractive traits of both sexes must first be defined.

Let’s start with women. For women most of the traits that go into their attractiveness are physical. As males we are interested in the health of a women to carry our children. Prior to the time of doctors reports men developed instincts to tell whether a woman was attractive or not, and attractive is synonymous with ability to carry and give birth. Traits like perky breasts, smooth and healthy skin, a symmetrical face and attractive hips all indicated health for child bearing. The second most important trait women have is a pleasant attitude and, thirdly, ability to create/maintain a home. Those last two traits have a large amount of overlap. The attractive traits for males are much more nebulous and difficult to pin down because they are behavioral and not physical.

To establish why a man’s body does not play a great role in the attraction of females we must first establish what makes a man attractive. Looking at evolutionary biology it becomes very apparent what attracts a woman to a man: ability to support a woman through pregnancy and child rearing. Now even saying that implies that a woman is measuring a ridiculous amount of traits in a man to determine if he is attractive; just as it takes a million congruent traits to best raise a child. So a woman must measure to accurately tell whether it is worth letting a man inseminate her just as a man must measure if it a woman worth inseminating. So traits like responsibility, charm and confidence are highly valued as they represent the ability if a man to produce, not just today, but in any future he is presented with as well. So, now it can be established that a man’s body does not help him succeed in the world we currently live in. However, a man’s body did play a big role in the ability to care thousands of years ago. An impressive male figure would imply a better ability to fight off wild creatures or other males, or in other words protect her during pregnancy and child rearing. This is why it is still a natural instinct in women today to find physical men attractive but not the whole package.

A Potential Reason Divorce is so High – 1.1

In A Potential Reason Divorce is so High – 1 I talked about the increasing stress of being on the sexual marketplace. Then I paired this increasing stress with the constant stress of being in a relationship. Combining these two makes a lethal combination that many people struggle to cope with. I believe this stress is the cause an increase in no-strings attached relationships. I have no data to back this up it’s just a gut feeling. This article is purely conjecture.

It has long been known that humans need and crave human contact and a transference of emotion with another. It seems that more and more people in western culture have been looking for a way to share emotions without the actual depth in relationships. After all, relationships are more unstable than ever before. This instability stresses the mind. Knowing that a partner can leave at any time and, sometimes, will have an incentive to is nerve wracking. This phenomenon is addressed by songs like Sam Smith’s Stay With Me and Ed Sheeran’s Don’t. Both artist are looking for the sex and emotional bonding without the relationship. Then when their lovers leave them their inner sadness shines through. The fact that these songs have become so popular say something about it’s massive audience. The songs are lyrically and vocally oriented so one can not make the case that people enjoy it because of the beat. Therefor, we can assume that the lyrics and vocals must strike a cord with this very large audience. I believe that the stress of being on the market all the time has caused a fundamental change in the relationship depth people are looking for. The stress of being on the market is so great that nobody wants to add the stress of being in a relationship with that. Relationships, not only, don’t spare them anymore from the cruel marketplace, but crank that stress up even more. The incentives for a deep fulfilling relationship are no longer outweighing the cost.

Because deep relationships are more costly than before people are not engaging until as late as possible, as shown by the rising age of first marriage. However, humans still need human contact and a transference of emotion. Also, nobody, except the most battled hardened players, enjoys going out to get a new mate every night. Thus we have the perfect environment for individuals to engage in no-strings attached relationships. Stress keeping them from committing, and biology keeping them from doing nothing.

A Potential Reason Divorce is so High – 1

In America people complain about the divorce rate without ever looking for an answer as to why it is. They just hope it will fix itself. One possible explanation is the increased social mobility of women. Increased social mobility in the form of work and wages has allowed female independence never before seen in all of history.

Increased social mobility of women has created an environment where either party can leave a relationship at any time. Prior to today women were dependent on either their father or the man who was courting them. At almost every point in her development a women had someone caring for her. A father would take care of the young lady then a man, who had been carefully vetted and often had known the family for years, would take out the daughter so he could display his ability to support and care for a woman through the form of a date. When the male had finished his display he would return the daughter to her father. Then after he had adequately displayed an ability to care for a woman many times he would request that the woman move in with him and they become mates through the form of marriage. This structure exists still today but no longer bears the same depth and intesity. Today the definition of “date” has changed. It has changed because men no longer have to show our ability to care. Women can care for themselves. It is hardly attractive for men to show our ability to care, unless it is far, far better than the average male, because that trait has lost most of it’s value. If everybody has the ability to do it then it is not a valuable skill. It’s like the value of copper decreasing because somebody found a large reserve. Even the definition if “marriage” has changed because the gender dynamic is no longer organized the way it has been for almost all of human history. We truly live in a brave new world regarding gender dynamics and each individual must try to carve out a place for themselves.

You can argue whether or not this is good or bad amongst yourselves. I only care how these changes effect a journey for a mate. The directly observable change is a destruction of relationship stability. The ability to get up and leave a relationship has never been higher. At the same time the cost of leaving is lower as well. One can leave a relationship with relatively little cost and greater certainty that they will be cared for than in the past.

In our modern sexual marketplace nobody can ever relax in a relationship because of this ability to leave. This extends into marriage as well, nobody can ever relax in a marriage because of the ability to leave. They could be divorced at any time and, once again, have to face the harsh realities of the sexual marketplace. The things listed above force people to act like they are single, always looking for a mate, even in a relationship. In today’s society individuals have to deal with the stress of being on the market and in a relationship at the same time. Just the stress of being in a relationship can sometimes be overwhelming. A man must maintain an air of masculinity and a woman must maintain an air of femininity, real or faked, more than ever before, in and out of relationships. The margin for error in the marketplaces, both the sexual and marriage, has never been smaller in human history.

I hope this changes in the future but it would take a change on a societal level that would require generations of people to change. This is something that does not happen quickly.

Feminine Women Reveal a Lack of Masculinity

Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich has had a huge impact on the way I think about riches and success. The chapter that continues to influence me the most is his chapter on “The Mystery of Sex Transmutation.” Mostly because no other book has material as forthright as Hill’s material written here. If the concept in this book was distributed today it would have a huge impact on the males of my generation. This chapter written about can be found here.

Napoleon claims that the purpose of the sex desire in men is good for three things. One, the perpetuation of mankind. Two, as a therapeutic agency and, three, as a way to transform mediocrity into genius through transmutation. Hill says this about transmutation: “Sex transmutation is simple and easily explained. It means the switching of the mind from thoughts of physical expression, to thoughts of some other nature” (Hill, 260). Hill believes that sexual expression is the greatest force moving humankind throughout history. He gives many examples of highly sexed men who dominate the history books.

This incredible drive men have to express their sexual desire is the greatest gift that could ever be given to any offspring. This drive makes males more likely to reach a level they can facilitate the use of “creative imagination.” This creative imagination are what many people call the sixth sense geniuses have. Men throughout history have reached this incredible feat. While some men (mutants?),  like Nikola Tesla, have reached this level without the aid of women most men need the femininity to reveal their masculine short comings.

Often, ultra successful men reminisce about their past lovers and how those women revealed the inadequacy of their men when they broke up with them. The women revealed the weakness to these men. This un-masculine weakness holds them back. Now that the weakness is revealed by the rejection of their masculinity they were able to improve upon it. By improving upon their weak spots in their masculinity they were able to increase their odds of reaching creative imagination. The access to this creative imagination helped them achieve great things. While a man could figure this out without a woman, a woman will greatly increase the speed of the process.

For example, I had one high school relationship. For about a year I was not able to assess what the cause of our relationship struggle. My ego was still to greatly involved. About a year after I could look back and see the incredible lack of masculinity I had. Even today memories of our relationship run through my mind and I cringe at the lack. Upon realizing this shortcoming I knew I had to change. I did not date anybody for years as I worked on myself and integrated desirable traits into my personality. By being honest with myself and admitting that I was un-masculine, like the men of Think and Grow Rich did, I opened myself up for greater opportunities through fixing myself. That relationship was, without a doubt, the greatest learning experience of my life.

In modern day society men are told that they are, “great just the way you are.” If any man takes this mindset towards his masculinity he will cease to be masculine. There is no mindset that does more damage to men and women than this one. If a man wants a top tier feminine woman he must in the be top tier of masculinity and, vice versa, for women wanting men. No man is born into the top tier of masculinity.  Men must learn how to be in this top tier. To get to this top tier in a timely way sexual transmutation is absolutely essential. The expression of your sex into “thoughts of another nature” will allow progress at a much faster rate. Even though it will take a long time I urge every striving man to acquire this skill so he may achieve the most he possibly can.

The Left’s Hypocrisy

I often laugh at the Liberal media’s embracing of both Feminism in all it’s form’s while also embracing the LGBT community and Islam. This is an interesting Trichotomy because the gender perceptions from which each group acts according too are completely opponent to one another.

Feminism disparages males inbred natural attraction instincts that are specifically coded into us by years of evolution. When a male looks at a woman he is checking her for reproductive health. Our instinct were formed long before medical reports were available and our eyes were the best things we had to check a woman’s reproductive health. So the pleasure a man feels when looking at a shapely, naked women are his instincts telling him he has found a potential mate. There is nothing wrong with this instinct, in fact it is the best, good thing that could possibly happen. Genes that made men attracted to ugly women died out because nature did not allow their offspring to survive. This male instinct is incredibly important and should not be downplayed or disgraced. Female instincts aren’t denigrated why should straight male’s be? While apparently Feminism has found it acceptable to belie straight male instincts they have not found the same reason to do so with gay males. The ironic thing about gay males is that nobody is a more apparent manifestation of male instincts.

Gay male culture is famous for it’s crudeness. Gay men have sexual intercourse (we can debate about whether it is actually sex later) at a rate much higher than straight men. Also, the filtering mechanism by which gay men choose their possible mates is most often physical attractiveness, the same as straight men. Gay men are men subject male standards of attraction. This is why gay males more often care more for their looks then straight males. Their bodies are toned and they work hard to be appealing because they know they are being physically scrutinized every time they go out. They accept that males predominant filtering mechanism is physical attraction. This is why women relate so well to gay males. Gay males are more understanding of female problem of gaining attention from attractive males. They understand the problems and benefits of a inability/ability to garner attractive or unattractive male’s attention because they too are under intense physical inspection.

Compare this to the gender constructs of Islam where females are “restrained” compared to their western counterparts.  The fact that females have to wear Hijabs in the first place send most Western women up the wall. Now take into account chapter 4, verse 34 in the Qu’ran. This verse explains men’s gender role as Quwwamun. This word translates into lord, master, ruler, governor, manager and bread-winner. Islam encourages male desire by law which could not be more different from the feminized western world.

Each of these three are completely conflicting yet the left continuously convinces them that they are the party for each one of them. This is only the beginning of the contrasts that pervades the left. One has to ask themselves “how do all these conflicting views come to be supported by the same party?” The answer is standards. The further right the party is on the political spectrum the higher it’s standards for participation become. These standards restrict people from  participating in their party. Examples of these restrictions include things like, being an overly hard working man, christian, and socially conservative, which all align in reasoning, thought process and morality. On the other hand, the left has no standards. In order to compete they take on whatever cause they can and promise everything to everybody. The left is like a sleazy lawyer who will represent anybody and everybody regardless of moral conflict in their cases. People who participate in the left have to realize that they participate in a party that promises things to segmented/rejected groups, who band together to compete, they can not fully deliver in order to compete. If you are a person in the middle of the political spectrum I encourage you to lean right solely for the reason that their goals, morality and thinking processes all align.